I know Primo is only 4 months old, but I really thought his parents might give him a Christmas gift.
I made very simple personalized gifts for Primo to give to his parents and siblings. They very much appreciated them, which resulted in hugs all around. I was reminded that thoughtful, simple gifts go a long way during the holidays. I felt uplifted and pleased with myself. Quite smug in fact, as if I alone had discovered the true meaning of Christmas.
I even remembered, at the last minute, to buy a gift for Primo's social worker, she was very touched too.
To be honest I was exceedingly struck by Primo's siblings and parent's response to what I considered a very small kindness. I was propelled into the Christmas spirit, and enjoyed my own Christmas celebration, a few days later, more than I had in years past. I felt happy to know, that in a materialistic culture such as ours, a little thoughtfulness and love went a long way.
On this visit before Christmas no gifts were exchanged between Primo, his sibs and parents, they planned to bring their gifts to their visit after Christmas.
(All other visits during this particular day of the week between Christmas and the New Year had been cancelled. We were the only ones visiting in a very empty agency office.)
The official Christmas visit resulted in no Christmas gift for Primo. I have to say that I felt a bit deflated.
Without a present was there evidence of some thoughtfulness and love? Of course there could be. His parents showed up to see him and maybe that should be gift enough for me? Or better yet maybe this shouldn't be about me at all, but I do seem to take on feelings and emotions for Primo that he obviously doesn't have at his age.
The bottom line is that I would have felt much better about Primo's parents if they had remembered to give him any little thing for Christmas. But I guess these are my issues to work out!?