Technically both Primo's DH$ social worker and our agency's social worker should be visiting our home every month to see Primo and to check that he is safe in our home. Our agency's social worker comes every month, DH$ not so much, and Primo's actual DH$ social worker has never been to our home.
There have been many times that these monthly visits have been scheduled, but the social worker is a no show.
This has been going on for months. You might think I would be used to these visits by now, and in many ways I am. BUT... I can't help myself, I do a major cleaning and de-cluttering each and every time one of these visits is scheduled. I used to be very disappointed when nobody showed up.
I must admit that I've begun to grow weary of these visits, whether they happen or not. Primo's lawyer also comes out to our home once every three months. This schedule makes for a lot of deep cleaning, de-cluttering and stress.
Seeking to decrease my stress levels in general, and specifically as they relate to foster care I have decided to try to make a philosophical shift in my thinking about monthly visits. I will now try to look at these visits (whether they happen or not), as an opportunity to simplify and tidy my home. You know, like an opportunity to commit myself to doing something I otherwise would not do regularly? As I'm typing I realize that I'm not sure that I have really convinced myself of this, but I will keep trying, otherwise I cannot keep doing foster care.
Monthly home visits are getting me down. Hopefully I will be able to re-frame how I perceive these visits.
Seriously, I am SO OVER entertaining the county (DH$), foster care agency and lawyer in my home so often.