Wednesday, August 8, 2012


I have never used daycare for any of my children.  I just used baby-sitters.  With foster care finding a correctly certified sitter is difficult in my state.  I have not yet found one, I have two friends who are working on finishing all their clearances and back round checks, but it has been over 6 months and I don't feel like pressuring them right now.

Therefore, I'm considering daycare for Primo.  Not every day, but for a few days a month so that I can have some set times to schedule my own appointments and maybe a wee bit of alone time?

I'm sure my first challenge will be finding a daycare facility that will take him for only a few days/half days a month.

What do you do when you need a sitter?  I'm pretty sure that some states have much more relaxed standards for baby-sitters who care for foster children, I wish I lived in one of those states.


  1. It was easy when we fostered in Iowa. I don't know if it was because the rules were that drastically different - or if it was how our CPS worker handled things. But all I had to do for a babysitter is give them the name and address. If the person was coming in to my home they didn't worry about anything.

    Where I'm at now (in Texas) it's radically different!! Any babysitter has to be over 21 years old and has to go through a formal background check. My agency will rush through things pretty quickly (only a couple weeks). But it's still a pain in the neck.

    I too utilize a day care setting for those times when the little ones cannot go with me. (I'm not a fan of bringing cherubs with me to my own doctor appointments.) I absolutely detest the day care that I found. But, due to the nature of where I live, I'm pretty sure it's one of the better ones. And, thankfully, it's right across the street from our little four block neighborhood. They have reasonable drop in rates which helps.

  2. In AZ, you can use an adult caregiver of your choice for periods less than 24hrs without CPS approval. That law passed in 2008 after lots of issues with case workers that wouldn't let foster parents leave kids even at a birthday party for 2 hrs w/o a background check etc. One of our state legislators is a foster parent. As a result, the babysitting issue is much easier now. If you want the state to pay for it, however, the provider must be DES certified whether it's a daycare center or an individual provider. In our area, I have known foster parents to negotiate rates for foster kids (asking for waived registration fees, no copays, only pay for time used etc). In my area, there are a lot of daycares, so more competition and more opportunity to negotiate. Weve been very lucky with that. I imagine in rural areas, it's a different story.

  3. In my area, there are lots of "daycares" that are actually stay at home moms who just watch children out of their home, but they are licensed and therefore can get paid by the state. Are there any of those around you?

    I'm also choosing to use a "babysitter" rather than daycare, and all of the compensation I get will go toward that. My foster son is really only 4 weeks old for his corrected age, and on oxygen, so I felt much more comfortable with a one-on-one situation, and it's just not going to work for the babysitter (who is a grad student) to go through the whole licensing process. What a drag.

  4. I would love to use a licensed stay at home Mom, but there aren't any I know of near me. There are however 5 or 6 big daycare centers within 10 minutes of my home. My state will not pay for daycare unless I work full time and even then I would have to find one of the few daycare centers that would be willing to take the smaller government subsidy.

    I can imagine that one reason my state/county has a shortage of foster parents could be because of the tough standards for hiring a baby-sitter. In many ways we are house bound here, and it gets old very fast.

  5. In our state they don't pay anything for daycare. Since my husband and I work it's money out of pocket for us. I wish we lived in a state that offered some sort of financial help for daycare.

    For babysitters- if they're under 18 they don't have to pass a background check or anything. For anyone over 18 they need to have a background check that takes about 2 months to complete.