Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Jumping! (into foster care)

This morning I was jumping on the bed with a grinning 2 year old who was looking right into my eyes and laughing.

How did I get here?

Life really is a miracle.

This little guy loves me, he calls me Mama and cries for me when I leave him.

I had no connection with him until he was month old, I never imagined a future with him, and now we jump on the bed every morning to celebrate the new day.


Saturday, October 26, 2013

Holding Pattern

I won't lie, this 6 month wait between termination trial dates has been a real drag.

Every expectation of everyone involved in the case was unfulfilled.

It has been very difficult for Primo's parents, and the foster parents involved and especially the older brothers. While they are happy to still be able to visit with their children they are also devastated to be living in another 6 months of limbo.

Visits are painful because Primo's parents are in such a bad place right now. There is no easy way to lose your rights to your children, but this long wait has been horrible for them and we're not even half way through it yet. There have been many missed visits.

This time last year we thought that Primo would be going home. His parents were doing really well, Mike and I and Primo's older brother's foster Mom were helping them get ready for their children to come home. While this was bitter sweet, it was a positive time for all of us.

What a difference a year makes. It has been devastating to watch all the positive relationships and support spiral downward.

I'm almost positive that Primo's parents want to continue a relationship with all of their children. I've been told that we can't speak to them about this until post termination. Which doesn't make much sense to me because how will be in touch with them if not via visits?

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Lock Boxes

Now that Primo is two I seriously need something to lock up house hold meds, like our over the counter pain killers, liquid cold crap, yes that's what I officially call that green so you can sleep liquid medicine, and prescriptions etc.

During previous safety inspections the social workers have been fine with all that kind of stuff being in an upper cabinet in the kitchen. For our next inspection I want to have an official lock box. 

I've been looking in stores and online and have not found one that seemed inexpensive or practical, they are either way too small, or way to heavy (fire proof variety which I don't need, but a good size). 
I'm also concerned that I will lose the keys and then when I have a horrible headache or whatever I will be trying to bust the stupid thing open because I forgot where I hid the keys.

Last week I ordered one online, but it was too small to hold a larger bottle of over the counter pain killer in, ugh. This one was strictly for prescription bottles and we don't have too many of those.

I was scanning the internet this morning when I should have been at church and I found an old adoption/foster care thread that contained the best answer yet to the "lock up all your meds" dilemma, and I'm going to share it with you.

Go out and buy a cheap toolbox, any size you want as long as it has a little loopy thingy in front for putting a small padlock on (see photo). There are lots of inexpensive plastic ones out there. I paid $9.99 for mine and another $3.99 for a little pad lock with a combination so I never lose the keys.

I was able to by the perfect size for my bathroom closet shelf. If you care about how the inside of your closet looks this may not be a good idea for you. For me it was very inexpensive and easy to find, almost every tool box I looked at was able to be locked with a padlock.

This would not do if you have teenagers in your home that you need to keep medications away from, but for a toddler it does the trick.

Thursday, October 3, 2013

One of the best things I've read on the web...

I love this post by MamaJ over at FosterCareQandA. Check her out.

I distinctly remember having a moment of clarity during our foster care training about this very topic.