Saturday, October 26, 2013

Holding Pattern

I won't lie, this 6 month wait between termination trial dates has been a real drag.

Every expectation of everyone involved in the case was unfulfilled.

It has been very difficult for Primo's parents, and the foster parents involved and especially the older brothers. While they are happy to still be able to visit with their children they are also devastated to be living in another 6 months of limbo.

Visits are painful because Primo's parents are in such a bad place right now. There is no easy way to lose your rights to your children, but this long wait has been horrible for them and we're not even half way through it yet. There have been many missed visits.

This time last year we thought that Primo would be going home. His parents were doing really well, Mike and I and Primo's older brother's foster Mom were helping them get ready for their children to come home. While this was bitter sweet, it was a positive time for all of us.

What a difference a year makes. It has been devastating to watch all the positive relationships and support spiral downward.

I'm almost positive that Primo's parents want to continue a relationship with all of their children. I've been told that we can't speak to them about this until post termination. Which doesn't make much sense to me because how will be in touch with them if not via visits?


  1. Have they been given the option to surrender and mediate an open adoption plan?

  2. No, and I'm pretty sure they will never voluntarily surrender their parental rights.