Thursday, June 26, 2014

Primo's profile

Remember back to the beginning of June? That's when I was told that Primo's profile would be completed/updated/corrected in a week.

Here we are closing in on the end of June and Primo's profile is not finished and will not be finished by the end of June. In fact the contract worker responsible for this profile has not even looked through all the files yet.

There goes our July finalization goal right down the tubes. 

This is one of those days where I feel like I'm swimming up stream against white water trying to make this adoption happen. I can't do it. I have to let go. It will happen when it happens.

The frustration of it all!!!!!!!!!!!!

Friday, June 20, 2014

Driving with teens

I clench my teeth as we lunge towards the stop sign at break-neck speed. My right foot pressing uselessly into the passenger side floor of the car.

"Stay on your own side of the road" I plead over and over.

When we finally reach the parking lot, the back tire bounces up on to the curb and then back down again.

I let go of my breath and sign with relief. I'm relieved I didn't freak out and throw and all out temper tantrum in the car.

I've survived another day of driving with a teenaged driver.

On to parallel parking, oh JOY!

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

We're fully into summer here. School is out and the staycations have begun.  We are waiting on paperwork for the adoption so we're not sure if we will vacation this summer (not knowing when our adoption date will be etc.)

I wrote my first letter to Primo's parents and am waiting to hear back from them. Until the adoption is finalized this is how we will stay in touch. I sent photos and updated them as to Primo's development and likes and dislikes. I've decided to send letters quarterly, more often if I receive responses.

Primo's profile is still not finished. So we continue to wait.

Friday, June 6, 2014

Post TPR Visits

We 3 foster Mom's agreed to get Primo and his brothers together once a month after TPR.

We managed to get together in March. Primo got together with is older brothers in April and then later in April visited with his younger brother. No visit in May, but we hope to get together at the end of June when school is out and all of our lives have calmed down.

When we made this commitment I knew it would take a lot of discipline to make once a month visits happen. We all made time to make it weekly visits at our agency, but without that structure it's not working out too well.

Primo asks for Adda and BB about once a month, so I know he wants to see his older brothers, he has visited with them every week, sometimes twice a week for almost 3 years.

We all also have large families of 5 or 6 children each and have our own immediate family birthdays, vacations and commitments .

I'm feeling a bit at a loss as to how to jump start our visits, is once a month too ambitious?

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Just got a call

from the adoption worker. 

Our family profile has been approved! We are officially approved to adopt Primo. Not that this was ever in danger of not happening, but it is a huge relief.

In one week our adoption worker has accomplished so much, I'm so impressed. After so much waiting it feels good to finally be getting this process moving.

Now we wait for Primo's profile to be completed, hopefully in a week or so and then we chose a lawyer.

Then another visit from the adoption worker to sign subsidy papers and officially record Primo's new name. We are keeping his name as it is (his surname will be his middle name) and adding our last name.

The adoption worker says that we should be able to finalize in July!
(I'm trying not to put too much hope in this, I know how waiting for paperwork etc. can drag on for weeks, that turn into months.)