Sunday, October 26, 2014

Interesting adoption fact

Apparently our county is the only county, of all of the counties our lawyer petitions for adoptions in, that gives you absolutely no proof of your adoption when you leave the courtroom. Nothing, nadda, ZERO proof.

It felt very strange after all of the celebrating was over to not have a piece of paper stating that we are Primo's parents, proof that he is no longer an orphan, or a foster child.

For almost 3 years I've carried a piece of paper from our foster care agency stating that Primo was placed in our care on such and such a date and that we are his official foster parents. We've never had a medical emergency, or trouble when flying for vacation with Primo, but I've always carried it just in case. Now that piece of paper is meaningless and I have nothing to replace it with. 

This feels very strange. 

And so I wait, wait to change his name at school, wait to show his doctors proof that I can now make medical decisions for him, I wait.

The wait shouldn't be more than a week. We will receive a certificate of adoption in the mail and then we will wait 3-4 months for Primo's new birth certificate.

Friday, October 24, 2014

Oh really?

The morning after Primo's adoption is finalized I wake up happy and relieved.

Then my phone rings, and guess who it is calling? It's a social worker. And. She. Wants. To. Come. Over...

What?

That's right! She is the social worker from Primo's lawyers office, you know the one who comes out every six months?!

She's just been informed of Primo's adoption and now needs to come out for a "discharge" visit, oh my.

And she wants to come out today or tomorrow.

I immediately take the "tomorrow" option and am completely annoyed.

This will be the last social worker visit.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

I'm completely paranoid about privacy, but I know how much I LOVE seeing your adoption day photos, so here goes. This probably won't be up for long.


                                           

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Primo is officially adopted!

 

We had a full courtroom of family and supporters.

The whole proceeding took about 6 minutes from start to finish.

We all celebrated afterwards and took many photos. Primo was happy and excited.

A BIG day for all of us.

Monday, October 13, 2014

DNA tests

Here's a question for those of you who have adopted via foster care: Have you ever considered doing a DNA test for your child/ren? Not a paternity test but a DNA test that will provide a break down of their ethnicity, or the even more advanced tests that will trace their maternal or paternal lineage back to their continent, country or tribes of origin?

I'm thinking about it as a way to provide Primo with some knowledge of his biological back round.

What do you think?

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Adele please!

These are the words I often hear coming from the back seat when Primo is in the car with me.

Primo loves Adele.

The first Christmas that Primo spent with us I received 2 Adele cds from my girls. I love Adele and I would play them often during the days that I spent at home with Primo, who was just a few months old at the time.

During his first year whenever the long car rides to and from Primo's family visits got to be too much for him, he would wail sadly in the back of the car. All I had to do was pop in an Adele cd and he would calm himself and stop crying.

After Primo's first year with us I played less Adele and he no longer needed music to help calm himself in the car.


A few months ago Adele came on the radio on our drive to preschool:

Primo: I yike dis song
Me: Me too Primo, Adele sings this song

Well, from then on he has been asking for Adele songs almost every time we get in the car. It is completely adorable to hear "Adele please!" coming from the back of the car.